Dear gorgeous ones…

Welcome to Narc Wise!

The purpose of this site is to help you recover from narcissistic abuse and/or codependency by growing your self-love.

Finding your way to reclaim your freedom & joy is yours for the taking. I believe in you. You’ve got this.

You are a survivor. This alone is evidence, that whatever you choose to do with your life, you can make it happen.

Time for your flourishing gorgeous one.


My plan is to be your cheerleader on your journey. The site shares wisdom, lessons learned, and practical tips to support you in healing your wounds and reconnecting to your truest self so that your very best life is how you roll on a day to day basis.

A bit about what brought Narc Wise to life and the term ‘abusive narcissist’

Bullying has always struck a nerve with me for as long as I can remember.

The problem is rife and something must be done. I believe that this starts with individual empowerment.

It’s time to say no to the bully, and yes to ourselves.

Over the course of my lifelong mission, I’ve come to learn about Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and other Cluster B Personality Disorders…and well, this is where I see most bullies sitting.

And so, this is how Narc Wise came about.

You’ll notice I’ve used the term bully above, but the site focus is narcissism. And the term I’ve adopted throughout Narc Wise articles is ‘abusive narcissist’.


Because to my mind, the terms ‘bully’ and ‘narcissism’ and many others used commonly now (e.g.: psychopaths, sociopaths, malignant narcissists) are fairly interchangeable.

Because of the cross-over of traits, there is some confusion around criteria that differentiates disorders.

As a result, none of the above terms are currently within the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (the DSM-V) but refer instead to Anti-Social Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

When the terms were included in the DSM, the overlapping traits of the disorders included lack of fear and empathy; shallow emotional range and depth; manipulative, grandiose, charming, callousness, lack of responsibility, exploitative and impulsive.

So, to simplify things, Narc Wise uses the term ‘abusive narcissist’.

When referring to a disorder within the DSM, the correct term will be used.

A bit about me…

I’m a qualified strengths-focused coach, using methodology centred in positive psychology, and have a Master in psychology.

I’ve worked with people to overcome challenges in domestic violence, homelessness, substance abuse, codependency and narcissistic abuse using coaching frameworks.

My passion is to help people reignite self-love and self-belief by recapturing or perhaps even discovering for the first time the magic that is within them.


Like countless others, I’ve also experienced the damage of narcissistic abuse. I know first-hand the disabling effect of the fog that can take over, and how important clearing this is to reclaiming freedom & joy.

Knowing this, I aim to write straight-talking articles to cut through the all the manipulations and lies you’ve been fed, and to provide practical solutions to kick start your recovery journey.

Finally, I believe so strongly in the power of community, and of shared voices speaking their truths to learn and heal together.

Silence is a killer. Find your voice and share your story for yourself, and for others by getting involved in the Narc Wise community!

With gratitude,

Maggie x

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2 thoughts

  1. I am stuck with my narcissistic abuser for a little while longer as I get my finances together to leave with our 4 kids. We have been married for 20 years and while I knew something was always “not quite right” only recently discovered it was actually abuse that I have been enduring for the better part of my life. I am struggling with how to maintain a facade of marriage with one foot out the door and I am a little terrified about what leaving may trigger in my abuser. Discovering my co-dependence and his abuse has been a punch to the gut and liberating all at the same time. I just don’t know how to get through the next 2 months or so…or what exactly to tell my kids. I appreciate your website and hope to find answers.

    1. Dear Trying to get out. You’ve got this. Truly. It sounds like you have a plan, and are taking steps to take care of you and your kids. This is HUGE.
      I imagine it would be difficult staying whilst knowing that you are leaving without your plan being detected. Similarly, the challenge with your children is a real one. Is there any possibility of seeking support nearby to discuss these issues – it may be really helpful? You could seek advice on local support mechanisms from calling your national domestic violence hotline. With their help you could also explore safety plans around your concerns of what might be triggered when you leave, which is equally important.
      I hear you. When the veil lifts and clarity strikes in relation to our internal stuff and the reality of abuse, it is overwhelming (to say the least) and simultaneously validating enabling change. I’m cheering for you. You are on the cusp of all you yearn for coming to life. Sending you buckets of light, love & strength as you stride towards your freedom. Maggie x

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