Narcissistic Personality Disordered individuals follow a pattern within relationships covering three phases: idealisation, devaluation and discard.
- Idealisation is all about worship and adoration. One is “love bombed” receiving incredibly fast declarations of undying love, constant reminders of the unparalleled love shared, and intense focus on meeting victim’s needs.
- This is starkly contrasted with devaluation where the abusive narcissist does a 180 and deliberately conveys contempt to disempower the victim and keep them insecure about the relationship.
- Discard delivers on threats embedded in devaluation, by rejecting and abandoning the victim.